Ok I swear some men on are sick puppies. 

The way a certain male from AOL is acting about me not adding him to my MySpace buddy list, I get the idea he thought we were having some kind of sexual relationship.  I mean this is WEIRD.  I’ve only known the guy thru his ex-girlfriend and only met him in person a few times.  I haven’t seen him in person in ages, not since he came to the house and picked up the extra bed we were giving his son.  I think that was a year ago?  Maybe more?  I don’t even remember.

It’s not like he came over once a month or hung out with us on a regular basis.  But I’m thinking, because I refused to get in the middle of their breakup, I “wasn’t there for him” and I was “not a real friend”.  WTF?  What do these idiots on AOL consider a “real” friend?  We were acquaintances nothing more. 

I’m sorry but if you and I don’t “hang” on a regular basis (about once a month min) and we live in the same town, WE ARE NOT FRIENDS.  A friend is someone you spend time with.  Someone you enjoy being around. NOT someone you use when you need them and then drop like a hot potato as soon as you’ve used them up and spit them out!

So, if you’ve noticed I’m not “friends” with people that I hung with a year ago….there’s a reason for it.  (See above)

Or maybe there are “levels” of friends that I’m not aware of…but to me, a friend is someone I spend quality time with and someone I can talk to about anything. Not someone I say hi to in chatrooms or see in person once every 3 months at an AOL drunkfest!

Over the summer, I accidentally turned on a TV program that turned out to be a “church program”.  I was all set to change the channel then noticed the speaker was talking about friends and relationships.  So, I thought I’d watch for a bit.  Ended up watching the entire show, it was that interesting (it was captioned too believe it or not).

Three C’s of Relationships

Let’s see if I can remember it all…I wrote down the 3 C’s though

Commitment

Are they there for YOU when you need them? Or do you only see them when they need something from you?

Confidentiality

Can they keep their mouths shut about your private business? Or do they tell everyone they know what you’ve been doing?

Constructiveness

Do they encourage you or put you down? Do they hold you back? Or do they encourage you to be the best you can be?